He comes with the experience, but also the pain, of a married man. Here are the pros, cons and advice on how to know a divorcee or divorced man is ready for a new relationship.
You Can See His Ex Everywhere
If they had kids prepare to see her EVERYWHERE. And if you are a curious woman, you’ll look her up online and try to figure out who she really is and if she is like you. Why did she marry him? Did she really love him? Do the two of you have anything in common? These are just some of questions you’ll ask yourself.
He Will Always Hurt
Loose ends aside, there will always be a place in this man that hurts over the divorce. Divorce can feel like the biggest failure to a person. They are jaded whether they want to admit it or not.
You Need To Be A 120% guarantee, Sure-Thing Woman
They will seek out flaws in you that they didn’t seek out in the past women they dated. It’s wrong, but they don’t want to get hurt again. So they need to know 120% that you are the real deal.
You Will Be Watched
The hawk eyes will be out at all times.
He May Not Want To Marry Again
He may not want to get married again and he may not want any more kids or kids for that matter. IF you can’t accept that, then dating a divorcee or divorced man is not for you.
He May Not Know How To Date
He may be a little slow and when he gets a little too close to someone, he may pull back- a lot. He may want to date around and not be serious about anyone. If he was married for more than 10 years he will be a little rusty about courting. And he also may be confused and bluff about relationships just to give himself a little more time and space.
He Knows How To Commit
The good news is, once he does commit, he knows how to stay committed.
He Knows How To Be A Great Father
If he already has kids then you already know that he will make a great dad and having kids with him, if that is not the deal breaker, won’t be a cause to wonder what if.
He’s Aware Of His Past Mistakes And Shortcomings
He won’t want to make the same mistakes and he knows where he went wrong (hopefully) so therefore, with you, he will be even more willing to meet a certain standard.
He’s Determined To Create a Strong Relationship
Men naturally want to “fix” things and problem solve which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.
He’s Sexually Experienced
With any luck his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm. He’s got a leg up on bachelors everywhere. But Divorced men 67% more likely to fake an orgasm than bachelors as they ‘reject emotional intimacy’ so the key is to not sleep with them until you know that they are serious about you.
He’s Likely Financially Independent And Stable
Divorced men are more established professionally and may make more money than single guys who’ve never been married. They aren’t sitting on the couch at home dreaming some “big dreams.” They are working and making a name for themselves.
Be Sensitive To Your Man’s Fears
Your guy fears love, true love. Sounds silly, but it’s the truth. Tell him what you see and what you believe about his reluctance to move forward in the relationship and give him an opportunity to be open and honest about his feelings.
Make Your Affections Known
If you are scared of love and a relationship, tell him. If you really feel love towards him, let him know, but in person. Do not text. Do not leave it as a voice mail. He may try and run from hearing how you feel due to the fact that he fears what you may say, but reassure him that want you need to say won’t be something he will regret hearing.
Remember, Life is Not Like It Is In The Movies
Get your head out of the clouds thinking that just like in the movies you will get your, “Happily Ever After,” because life NEVER mimics the movies or even television. You can though find your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow with a relationship if you love with your heart, not your eyes. Sometimes you need patience in order to find true happiness. It won’t come fast and it won’t come easy, but it’ll be worth it.
